Why You Aren't Successful

This weekend I went to a seminar that changed my life. I mean it really brought my thinking fully into the paradigm that I have been evolving into for some time now but in a visceral, kinesthetic way. There are things that you know and then there are things that you know. In the context of this forum, I believe that most of you know what it takes to be healthy, happy people but most of you don’t follow through on what you know. Instead, you sabotage your success through the same patterns of action that you have been sabotaging yourselves for years. So, what is this unseen yet powerful force that determines whether you are destined for success or destined to wallow in your pain for the rest of your lives?

One simple way of looking at this problem is to shorten the whole string of processes that have to take place into an equation: T>F>A=R . To clarify: your thoughts are the basis for your feelings which help shape the actions that you take which determine your results. For example, under this logic, when your thoughts are negative or self defeating ( you don’t think something is possible for ex) your feeling is that you are not empowered to do it so the actions that you take will support the fact that you don’t think its possible and can’t possibly do it. What do you think the results are going to be? Its pretty predictable. The result of inaction or lack of proper action to complete a task will render the thought correct. In other words, you will prove to yourself that you can’t do it.

While this may serve your sense of our perceived order in the world, it does nothing to move you toward what you desire. It only serves to keep you down. Nothing positive comes of this and you have actually wasted a great deal of time and energy working toward a desire that you made sure you never fulfilled. Likewise, when you have a problem that you are sure you can solve, your thoughts, feelings, and actions ensure that the result is the solution of the problem. So, the question now becomes, “ how do I go about changing the thoughts that I have in order to set myself up for success?”

The answer lies in the belief systems that make up the thoughts that you have about yourself, your experiences, and the world around you. In order to change your thoughts, you must first examine your beliefs and then edit out the beliefs that don’t serve you while adding in the beliefs that do serve you. The belief system is the most fundamental part of the process because it determines how you experience, think, and feel about the world. So an amended equation would be: B>T>F>A=R. Or, your beliefs shape your thoughts which shape your feelings which are the basis for your actions which determines your results.

In theory, this all seems very simple, but it is the practice that will actually change your life. This is key. So, my question to you is: “are you getting the results that you desire?” And if not, “What are you going to do about it now?”

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What do YOU want?

A week ago I was in the beautiful Maui sunshine with my fellow mastermind participants. To say that the trip was transformational to both my life as well as my business would be to vastly understate both the transformation as well as the experience. 4 months after we came together in a Las Vegas hotel, this group has proved to be made up of the perfect, complimentary group of participants, with depth of character, love for one another, as well as some very special and valuable skills…yes you’ll likely see some of them here at some point in the next few months.

The intent of a mastermind group is to use the group to laser focus in on one person’s (business, life, goals, etc.) and come up with creative ways for improvement for that person. The idea is that the collective mind is more powerful than the sum of its individual minds and that the wisdom that comes out of the collective mind (or “master mind” as Napoleon Hill called it) is what allows people to see the path to greater success. In this case, we focused in on each person’s business (this is a business master mind) as well as identifying each persons blocks to success. Luckily enough, we had 11 coaches in the room so we resolved those blocks pretty quickly.

The moral of the story is that people at the highest levels of success have coaches and groups who help them see the holes in their best laid plans, help them surmount the obstacles that hold them back, and see the opportunities that they had been blind to. But most of all, these mentors and assistants help us appreciate the brilliance that is ourselves.

So right about now you are likely asking, “so what Manny?”. What the heck does this have to do with me and greater vitality, health, bla-de bla-de blah… And the answer of course is that while solo work with a mentor can be powerful, work with a group (in any area) can be transformative in a multiplied way. So I encourage you to reach out, find your soul purpose, and get with people who are like minded and want to help each other out. You can start by commenting on my blog what your true soul purpose is and what you are looking for NEXT so I can best serve you.